Hard Work & Perseverance
“If it was easy then everyone would be doing it”
Once we have a desire, a dream or set a specific goal, we need to take the ACTION required to get there. There is no doubt that making the initial effort is a factor in achieving success.
“Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough”
Often we are guided by others and their judgements as to whether something is right or wrong for us, and whether or not we can succeed- but it is our own inner voice which we need to listen to and follow.
Many of us start something new and the first time we try it, we can tend to let doubt creep in and say things like “I’m not good enough at it” or “this is too hard”… BUT…
“Every skill is trainable”
Starting a fresh challenge or doing something for the first time can be scary. It can be within unknown territory, but let’s be honest – we sometimes forget that every human being has done new things – and new challenges don’t necessarily happen every day. We make life to suit us and to fit in with what we find comfortable BUT do great things happen when you stay in your comfort zone?
“Most conscious actions requiremotivation, and there are two basic motivation types: intrinsic and extrinsic”
Intrinsic motivation is when you do something because you love it.
Extrinsic motivation is when your motivation to succeed is controlled externally. That includes doing something to avoid getting into trouble or working hard to earn more money. That type of motivation is short-lived. A good kind of extrinsic motivation is when you are practicing to get better but you still need a tutor or teacher to validate your efforts.
A seed when planted takes time to grow, blossom and bloom. It can’t become a flower overnight. It needs watering every day and eventually it will blossom. Muscles can’t be strong after one session at the gym, they need to be fed, and moved daily to create structure and depth.
Growth takes time and yet we can be impatient – asking questions to create barriers to our own success –
Is the end result is worth it?
Will life ever change for me?
How will I ever change this situation?
TRY THIS FOR A MINUTE –
Think back to your best past self – take a moment to reflect – was that yesterday, last week or a long time ago?
Try to take your mind to that place and remind yourself of HOW you felt with that moment of joy and trust in your life. What did you feel like?
Then take yourself to the moments which led you there… was it a quick overnight feeling or had you worked towards that moment over time?
What were YOUR actions which actually got you there?
If we can Trust ourselves, we then begin to Trust the process of change.
A small but simple thought and phrase to help get you through each day is:
“I am here today because I have dealt with yesterday – I trust that I can move towards my future by dealing with today.”
When we are in a state of ‘FLOW’ we are absorbed by our moments, we are able to focus and we lose all sense of time, and distractions – we work naturally towards our desires and goals. And this in turn helps us to feel motivated – to work towards our goals and to act.
“Inducing flow is about the balance between the level of skill and the size of the challenge at hand”
If we all create one challenge for ourselves at one time in our lives and achieve it – no matter when – then we have proven to ourselves WE ARE ALL CAPABLE of achieving something good again… It’s what we choose and how we choose to start it that leads us to our own ultimate success.
Alison Langrick (Wellbeing Warehouse Life Coach)
Reference: Nakamura / Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi